Recently, I have had to sit down and consider the question, "why is it soo important for Christians to attend church?" This is due to the fact that there are many church members today who do not feel that attending and being active in a local church is really all that big of a deal. After all, our relationship with God is a personal one, and there are so many people that do attend church that are just horrible people, so it's just better to stay home, and worship God there. It is important, in fact it is crucial, that we worship God behind the closed doors of our house. But on the same note, it is just as crucial that we are active in a local church if we are able to be. Of course, that is not always possible, is it? Some people are not physically able to attend church, and the church must extend itself out to these people. Missionaries often don't have the opportunity for this kind of community until they are able to spread the Gospel and thereby have a body of believers. For the most part though, we are all physically able, and in a position to attend church regularly.
But many do not. Why? some are bitter towards churches because at some point in their life they had a bad experience. Some feel that they are not treated with kindness, or maybe that they are the only normal people in the church. People just have a hard time getting along. They don't like the music, the prayer, the singing, the pastor or his message. They feel as though they should belong to the perfect church, the one where everyone is kind, understanding, gentle, friendly, helpful, intelligent, generous, encouraging, motivating but not much so or they might start becoming overbearing. It's got to be just right. We all feel this way sometimes because we are human, and much too sinful in our attitudes.
But does this mean we should not be active in Church? Should we give up on a church because we don't get along with everybody? Should we decide we can do better just staying homeby ourselves, and seperating from other Christians because we disagree with them on something? This is not the message in the Bible.
In Ephesians 4, we see Paul talking to the Church at Ephesus about this very thing. Paul writes that those in the Church must treat one another with "humility, gentleness, patience, bearing with one another in love." (4:2) So Paul is telling the church that they need to put up with one another. But most importantly, Paul gives the reason why in the next verse. "endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." We treat one another this way, putting up with our differences, putting one another first (that's what humility means, isn't it?) because we are unified in the Spirit. Paul doesn't write, "to make us unified in the Spirit." Rather, we are to "keep" the unity that is already present. Once we accept Christ, we are unified with all other believers in the same Holy Spirit. It just happens that way. So, for this reason, we bear with one another, loving one another in order to keep the unity.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer discusses this in his book, "Life Together", and he gives a stirring reminder that God has chosen to place his people in a community setting. Our community setting should not be solely based upon our social desires when we gather with other people. Rather, when it comes to the church, we should, as Bonhoeffer states, remember that it is “not what a man is in himself as a Christian, his spirituality and piety, [that] constitutes the basis of our community. What determines our brotherhood is what that man is by reason of Christ.” He continues, “one who wants more than what Christ has established does not want Christian brotherhood. He is looking for some extraordinary social experience which he has not found elsewhere; he is bringing muddled and impure desires into Christian brotherhood.” We find it all too easy to think of Church as a place where we get refueled, and our needs met, and us, us, us, me, me, me. It is true that we find comfort and renewal in Church, but only by focusing our attentions on worshipping God rather than looking inweard to what we want. We tend to forget we are there to worship God, and honor Him first and foremost. We do this through humbly serving one another in the body.
This thought is echoing Christ's words in the Garden as He prayed to His Father. "I do not pray for these alone, but also for those that believe in me through their word, that they all may be one as you, Father, are in me, and I in you; that they may be one in Us, that the world may believe you sent me" (John 17:20-21). We cannot escape from the fact that we are unified with other believers, and so we must treat one another lovingly. We are to imitate the relationship Christ has to the Father. How do we do this? In the conext of the local Church (Part 2). We must hold ourselves in check, sacrificing certain things that we know we are free to have for the sake of the "weaker brother" (Rom. 15). As Christians who faithfully follow the Word of God, we cannot escape the fact that we must be in fellowship with and supporting one another (more on the community of believers in Part 2). We cannot turn our backs on one another simply because of our comfort, or preferences. There are times when it is better to agree than to disagree (except on issues pertaining to Biblical truth), but not to turn one's back on a a fellow believer.
There is a clear command in the New Testament for keeping the unity of the Spirit with fellow believers. There is a clear explanation that we are to do this because in this we are are imitating our Father. So perhaps we should ask ourselves "for whose sake am I going to Church?" Is it solely for my own benefit, or is it for the Glory of God, who calls us to keep the unity? Let us look to God first.