My wife was reading several blogs this morning:
I See Daylight , Doulogos' blog on Humility, and a blog called
Bugizzy or something and she wanted a venue to respond so I thought it would be interesting to let her have this format. Let me introduce you to my favorite woman and mother in the whole world: Amy Morse.
I am a mother who is constantly being reminded of my own selfishness, pride (in regard to providing my family's needs), feelings of discontent, vanity, coveting of things, and the list could go on of more sinful behaviors or battles of the flesh that are my struggle.... or should I say my sanctification?
Since I do stay at home and am not out and about very much, I have come to understand that my home is my pilgrimage even though the destination is the same. More specifically, my Lord is with me from room to room, my mountain to run to for solace and prayer may be my bed loaded with laundry, and my mission field is my children. I don't think that any mother who trusts Christ as their savior would have a problem identifying with this description of a day in the life of a Christian who happens to be a mother. This mother could have one child or many, but the work of the Holy Spirit will usually manifest itself in the same way since we know what our ( a woman's) struggles will be as recorded in scripture for us. I only speak for myself and I realize that my husband could list his struggles just as readily and specifically as I have in regard to being a parent. Our participation in their lives from conception until death, if God wills, is,I believe, "...for His good pleasure." Phillipians 2:14. Please don't forsake the context of this verse in Phillipians as a whole.
Leaving the control of the birth of children up to God without interfering or without human activity cannot be compared to Hyper-Calvinism if saying that God can override the human activity of birth control and He is just as much in control as if birth control was not used is also compared using the same logic. Either way God causes a couple to have children or not when He wants. In regard to salvation and Hyper-Calvinism, we Calvinists (do not read hyper) consider it a priviledge to be a part of the saving work that God does in the heart of a new believer. This is why it is right to seek Him where He is working and join Him there. Using birth control, especially for the reason that a vast majority would give, does not seem to join God at His work but to delay or set at a time deemed more appropriate by us. Our human activity in this regard should not be compared to the work of salvation by God that we should be a part of. Since having a child when we think it best has also been compared to preventing cancer with sunscreen or by referencing
John Piper's comparisons of planning our haircut or where we plant seeds, a child seems to be less of a heritage from the Lord than the Bible proclaims them to be, or even as a curse rather than the blessings they are.
I admire John Piper greatly, yet it seems we disagree. He also states, in the referenced paper, that we should maintain the right to steward the time for when we will or will not come into possession of such gifts whether it be a wife, child etc.
I say, that maybe stewardship of the blessings and gifts given should be the thing to pursue wisdom for. Piper suggests that the pursuit of wisdom for our prioritizing one good thing from another is"... best for Kingdom purposes...".
Surely another thing to consider is the source of the "wisdom" for using birth control as we know it most commonly today, that is, artificial and in the form of a pill. This method has a dark history when linked backward to the people involved in producing the product originally and in the promoting of its benefits. The goal of those individuals was certainly not to encourage people to be a better steward of what they can reasonably manage, but rather to encourage the self centered life that they believed we all deserve. How does that line up with our goal as God-pleasing Christians? Is that the wisdom we need to utilize or pervert with Christian-like lingo?
Again, the comparisons made earlier to preventative health care, shorter, more manageble hair, and to our participation in the the saving of souls, of which the wisdom for such things seems to have a more positive and even God-like source, are not good comparisons at all. There is no comparison to the heritage our Lord gives in the form of children. We, as parents must utilize our time with our children to understand ourselves, our children, and everyone else in the light of Scripture's message to sinners. Those who are not parents must understand their position as a child of someone who was parented and, praise God, will come to know the part they play in the heritage Psalm 127 speaks of. As a mother of nine children who never conceived of the work God would perform in my heart before I had them, I still marvel at the person He will make me by the time they are no longer at home. Could it be a mother of 18? God only knows.